Fight for Same Sex Marriage


Same gender marriage is a very new law that people have been trying to legalize all around. Tom me I strongly am against the whole same gender marriage. I don't mind the same sex being together I do have a lot of homosexuals as friends and I never did anything bad about their likes of the same gender relationship. But Marriage is way too far for my blood.

The fight for same gender marriage has been going on for a while till the point our president George W. Bush supports it. I have looked on the web to find some good information of the same gender marriage and for the women side of the same gender marriage, I have found the National Organization for Women, which have been around since 1966, and I found an article by Amanda Cherin and communication Intern. The article explains in 2003 that the United States Supreme Court allowed the gays and lesbians to be together but yet they are not able to get married in any state in the United States. There are is about 594,391 same gender couples that are living together in the United States and yet they don't have the right to be legally married. "I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe a marriage between a man and a woman and I think we ought to codify that one way or the other." (President George W. Bush). Based on religion marriage is always between a man and a woman.

Marriage itself I think has changed as years and years go by. That if you think about it, same sex marriage is not such a big change at all. I looked through out the history of marriage and there are so many changes like polygamous marriage was accepted in many periods of history and still going on in some parts of the world. In the mediaeval time in Europe marriage was not based on sexual love. Marriage is now gender neutral, wives and children are not the property of the husband. It is also racially neutral, letting people marry outside their race. And also marriage doesn’t have to be "forever" because divorce is easier. So I think marriage is already out of control why not same sex marriage?

Mainly some religion goes against the same sex marriage based on what they believe, they believe that having the same sex marriage will put away all meaning of a marriage and also damage tradional family unions and lead to increase more homosexual couples.

Christmas say that homosexuality goes against the Bible. For example a verse in the Bible, "And they called unto lot, and said unto him where are the men which came in to thee this night? Bring them out unto us, that we may know them." (Genesis 19:5) or "thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination." (Leviticus 18:22). Also the other verse I have seen on the Bible which is intense to me is "If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death: their blood will be on their own heads." (Leviticus 20:13) So if yourself is in a same sex marriage and has a religion like this you should know you will be in trouble with God himself.

What is marriage? Recently, people argue with respect to the definition of marriage. What happened to marriage? To get married is a very important event for almost everyone. Especially for women, marriage and giving a birth could be the two biggest events of their lives. Many people believe that getting married to the one whom he or she loves is natural. However, what do you think if you cannot get married to him or her because it is socially unacceptable? Andrew Sullivan and William Bennett are authors who are arguing about the homosexual marriage. Sullivan agrees with the same-sex marriage because everyone has a right to marry. On the other hand, Bennett contradicts Sullivan’s opinion. Bennett makes an assertion that marriage is between a man and a woman building up their entire life together. Both authors’ opinions are totally different. Nevertheless, their ideas are well established.

In Sullivan’s essay, he talks about accepting same-sex marriage. If the judge accepted homosexuals as citizens in the Supreme Court, homosexual people would feel free. They do not have to hide and tell a lie anymore. Most people wonder why they desire to get married. The reason is the same as anyone who wants to get married to the one whom he or she loves. It is normal thought. It seems easy to accept these opinions. However, it is very difficult because marriage is between a man and a woman, and this has been a general thought for a long time. Therefore, some religions refuse homosexuality, but it is not a problem any more because of the separation of the church and the state. Homosexuals just want a social right to get married. Some people still argue the definition of marriage. It has been change by homosexuality because human values are equal anyone in the world. Everyone has the same rights. Is marriage to bring up children? No, there are many married couples who do not have children. This is no difference between homosexual marriage and other marriage styles. Nevertheless, if there are people who disagree with the same-sex marriage, they inhibit homosexual people from staying their country (Sullivan 26).

In Bennett’s essay, he writes two points which divide opinions about homosexual marriage. One is whether homosexual marriage strengthens or weakens the institution. The other is what the marriage is. If the definition of marriage were extended too much to include homosexual union, the tradition of marriage would be changed. Bennett asks how we can consider these people. It is difficult to say what the moral is. Marriage also means to decide your best partner. Everyone desires a beautiful life with a partner, but most marriage is not as the ideal as we think. He mentions that many supporters of homosexual couple do not share this ideal (Bennett p.30). Another different opinion from proponents to opponents of same-sex marriage is “the very heart of marriage itself” (Bennett p.30). Marriage is that a man and a woman love, respect, and help each other. That is what people learn in this society. The definition cannot be changed easily by anyone. In addition, this thought has been taught for a long time in American history. Therefore, we should respect and keep this thought.

I do not think there is a common ground. Of course, both authors talk about the same-sex marriage. Besides, Sullivan agrees with this, and Bennett is the opponent. However, what Sullivan really wants to say is the right of human being. Everyone has the same right, and there is no difference between men and women and black and white. As he says, this is why homosexuality should have the same right as other people have. Right to marry is just one of the whole problems for homosexuality. In contrast, Bennett focuses on marriage. He talks about what the marriage is, and what the marriage should be. In addition to this, he mentions other types of marriages like polygamy and family marriage. If there were these styles of marriages as a culture in the US, he would accept them. He says we should not change this culture because our ancestors made this.

There are many different types of love such as loving family, friendships, to love your pets, to love the one who you should not, your boyfriend or girlfriend and so on. Nobody will predict to love someone because love comes by chance. Did you change your mind to read this essay? Or do you still have your own opinion? I think both ideas those two authors gave us are correct. Only love can solve everything.

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